A Study of Evolved Gender Differences in Mate Selection Preferences among Students and their Parents


  • Dr. Uzma Ashiq Khan Assistant Professor, Incharge Department of Gender and Development Studies, Lahore College for Women University, Lahore, Pakistan. Email: uzma.ashiq@lcwu.edu.pk
  • Sana Farooq MS Student of Gender and Development Studies Department, Lahore College for Women University, Pakistan. Email: sanafarooq18@gmail.com
  • Maryam Zafar Lecture Assistant, Department of Gender and Development Studies, Lahore College for Women University, Lahore, Pakistan. Email: maryamzafar19@yahoo.com


Mate Selection, Preferences, Generational Gap, Socio-Cultural Dynamics, Modernization.


The current study was about identifying generation gap in preferences of students and their parents while looking for proposals. Quantitative method was used by collecting data through self-constructed checklist for mate selection preferences. The sample was comprised of 240 participants with convenient sampling technique. The findings revealed gender differences in preferences and generation gap is existing regardless of family and social pressures, that was clearly evidenced with respect to few indicators, i.e. ideal age of marriage, age gap with spouse, and type of productive marriage. The results explored numerous range of preferences made by boys and girls for their spouses or fathers and mothers for their son-in-law and daughter-in-law respectively. The results indicated that despite of modernization people still don’t admire wife and daughter-in-law as a working woman although they surfaced their various physical and behavioral characteristics rather than professional. The study concluded that every gender has its preference for spouse selection. Also, generational gap was found to be linked with gender roles and socio-cultural dynamics of society.


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How to Cite

Dr. Uzma Ashiq Khan, Sana Farooq, & Maryam Zafar. (2022). A Study of Evolved Gender Differences in Mate Selection Preferences among Students and their Parents. Archives of Educational Studies (ARES), 2(2), 97–120. Retrieved from https://ares.pk/ojs/index.php/ares/article/view/30